Improving Your Relationship with Empathy

Written by Spencer Dutson, LMFT, CEFTOn empathy Brene Brown has said (you definitely want to watch this short video … go ahead, click the link), “Empathy fuels connection, sympathy drives disconnection.”But, what is empathy, and how is it different from sympathy? I...

The Secret Power of Tapping into Consequences

Written by Spencer Dutson, LMFT, EMDR Trained TherapistIn her book, “Rewiring the Addicted Brain with EMDR-Based Treatment”, Laurel Parnell PhD writes about how powerful EMDR can be to heal addiction. However, her writing on consequences is something that I really...

Grief VS Trauma

Written by Spencer Dutson, LAMFT, EMDR Trained TherapistBefore talking about how grief and trauma are similar and different, I want to start by talking about “reality.” I put that in quotes, because our “reality” is dependent on our perspective and experiences, which...

Back to School Anxiety?

This may be an especially challenging year to send your kids back to school, from kindergarten and elementary school all the way up to high school and college. Your child may be dealing with the effects of…well…2020. But regardless, back to school anxiety is a very...

Trauma and Your Relationships

Trauma (AKA: Difficult Life Experiences) and your Relationship(s)Written by Spencer Dutson, LAMFT, EMDR Trained TherapistOkay, so I used the word “trauma” in the blog title, but for the purpose of this post, I want to instead use the words, “difficult life...

3 Types of Trauma and What to Do About Them

Many people experience trauma. Life can be full of difficult experiences, each experience being individual, trauma included. There are 3 main categories of trauma: acute, chronic, and complex. Acute traumaThis is typically a one-time event that is extreme...